Ditch the Doubt, Date Yourself

My First Love Has to Be Me

 ❤️ Unlock the transformative power of self-love with Patty Mulauzi on Heart to Heart! In this deeply personal episode, Patty reflects on her journey to self-acceptance as she approaches her 40s. She shares her past struggles with seeking external validation and reveals the life-changing realization: your most important relationship is with yourself.

Learn how to ditch self-doubt and start "dating yourself" – embracing solo dates, setting healthy boundaries, and silencing that critical inner voice. Patty dismantles societal pressures that tell women they are "less than" without a partner and empowers you to reclaim your worthiness, just as you are.

This isn't just about superficial self-care; it's about healing past wounds, releasing toxic beliefs, and building unshakeable self-esteem. Patty's heartfelt message will inspire you to:

• Fall in love with YOU first.
• Celebrate your unique "Patty-ness."
• Create a solid foundation for all your relationships.
• Understand your inherent worthiness.
  
  Tune in to "Ditch the Doubt, Date Yourself" for a liberating conversation that will empower you to prioritize self-love and build a happier, more fulfilled life. #selflove #selfworth #pattymulauzi #hearttoheart #podcast #selfcare #personalgrowth #womensupportingwomen #confidence #datingyourself #inspirationalpodcast #empowerment #selfacceptance #loveyourself

Listen now and start your self-love journey today!

Transcript

Heart to Heart with Mulauzi: "Self-Love"

Hello, Heart to Heart family! Thank you for joining me today and for consistently tuning in every Monday for our heart-to-heart chats. Your feedback, insights, and stories mean the world to me. Today’s discussion has been brewing in my heart for a long time. "As I draw nearer to the 4th floor—yes, I’m talking about my 40s—I’ve been taking stock, reflecting on my journey of self-awareness, self-love, and self-acceptance. Let me just say, it’s been a story—one I’m still writing every single day."


You know, when I was younger, I spent so much time longing for someone to love me. To *want* me. To choose me. To fall head over heels for me, to be swept away by my charm, my sparkle, my... *Patty-ness*. (laughs) I thought that was the ultimate goal—to be loved by someone else. But as I’ve matured, I’ve discovered something so much more important: my first love has to be *me*.

Yes, I need to fall in love with *me*. Choose *me*. Be blown away by *me*. And let me tell you, that realisation? It’s been life-changing.

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Now, don’t get me wrong—love between two people is an *amazing* thing. When it’s a pure partnership, a friendship, and a jolly good companionship, it blossoms into something truly beautiful. But here’s the thing: how do you expect someone to give you butterflies, make you blush, call you beautiful or cute, or appreciate you… if you don’t appreciate yourself? Worse still, how do you feel those things for someone else if you can’t even feel them for yourself?

Some of my former thoughts about myself were, of course, shaped by society. You know how it goes—society insists that if a woman is unmarried or doesn’t have a man, she’s less than. Something’s wrong with her. She’s not worthy. And for a long time, I believed that narrative. I mean, it’s been ingrained in us for generations, right? It might have been relevant back in the day, but now? Oh, honey, I’m starting to *really* enjoy the peace of being me.

I’m talking about waking up in the morning, looking in the mirror, and saying, “Good morning, gorgeous. I choose you today.” I’m talking about taking myself out on dates—yes, solo dates!—and enjoying my own company. I’m talking about setting boundaries, saying no when I need to, and not apologising for putting myself first.

And let me tell you, self-love isn’t just about bubble baths and face masks—though those are great too! (laughs) It’s about digging deep, healing those wounds, and letting go of the toxic beliefs and traumas that we’ve carried for far too long. It’s about looking at yourself and saying, “I am enough. Just as I am.”

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Some people stay in toxic relationships because they’re afraid of being alone. They stay in unhappy situations because they’re worried about what people will say. But here’s the truth: the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. If you find someone who loves and respects you, that’s amazing! You can grow together, love each other, and build a healthy life. But if you don’t? That’s okay too. Because you are enough. Just as you are.

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Loving yourself is the most liberating feeling in the world. It’s like finally coming home to yourself. It’s about letting go of the need for external validation and realising that you are worthy simply because you exist. And when you truly love yourself, you create a solid foundation for everything else in your life—your relationships, your career, your dreams.

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So, Heart to Heart family, I want to leave you with this: Spend the rest of your life falling in love with *you*. Be unapologetically yourself. Celebrate your quirks, your flaws, your strengths, and your sparkle. Because at the end of the day, you’re the one person you’ll spend the rest of your life with. And honey, that relationship? It’s worth investing in.

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Thank you for joining me today. Remember, you are enough. You are worthy. And you are so, so loved. Until next time, this is Mulauzi, signing off with love. Take care of your heart—and don’t forget to love yourself first.